The period of completion after an uncomfortable experience is not just about resolution, it is also a time of transition. When we seek closure, what we really want is an understanding of what has happened and an opportunity to integrate the lessons we have learned.
Creating closure is an act of loving yourself and healing the experience. Without it, there is no resolution and we are often left to grieve, relive old memories, feel stuck, or remain forever connected to people from our past.
If you can’t achieve closure directly with someone or something, you can create your own way of honoring and completing it.
- Accept that you have done your best
- Write a letter to the person and then burn or shred it to let it go
- Create a visualization of the experience being cleared
- Freeform writing
- Give it to God
- Create a ceremony of letting go
- Breathe it out and breathe in love
- Honoring the lessons and what you can be grateful for in a meaningful way
- Imagine the person in front of you and tell them what you need to say
- Vent in a physical way (hitting something, running, screaming)
- Create art that expresses feelings or honors what has left your life
- Share the story through a book, article, or blog post
- Turn the experience into something that serves the world
When you experience closure, you will be more clear and ready for the next great thing to enter your life. It’s sure to be something good.
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