Sometimes I think I’m an expert at creating negative fantasies. They may be about someone doing me wrong, my house burning down, a car accident, a fight with someone I care about or any number of things. The one thing they all have in common is that they make me feel sad, depressed or bad about myself.
When I come back to the real world, feeling a bit tumbled about, I always regret the precious moments of life energy that I let myself give away to these negative stories that aren’t even true.
Do you have them too? I bet you do. I think we all may be experts at creating negative daydreams and marinating in the bad feelings they bring.
What a waste of our precious time and energy.
So now I’ve learned to become a ninja at spotting negative fantasies lurking in the corners of my mind. When they try to take over, I don’t allow them the space. I set them aside. Not with anger or reactivity because I am sure they are there for a reason and it’s not their fault.
I just gently say, “I’m not going there”, and move on with my day.
In times like these, with Covid-19, political unrest and so much anger in the world it is even more important to keep our minds as clear, loving and positive as possible. We need to practice better mental hygiene so that we can not only survive, but thrive in the lives we have been given.
I hope that you become a ninja at turning away from negative fantasies, too. I want you to feel good in your moments and live in the positive reality you have been given.
Yes, it’s possible and positive and beautiful and amazing. You are alive! And, if you look, you will always find blessings and things to be grateful for. Focus on that.
Gratitude and love can lift you up and make you less fertile ground for the negative daydreams swirling in the dark places of your mind. Gratitude and love can shift anything.
The next time you feel your mind pulling towards something dark that isn’t even real, protect yourself by simply saying, “I’m not going there.”
If you want to have a daydream, at least make it a good one.
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One of your best and most relevant posts Linda.
So good to be reminded to simply tell our mind not to go where it wanders at times.
It happens to all honest people I know.
Thank you Dan. It certainly was relevant for me. I think this one came through me not from me, though as I woke up with it in my mind already.