One of my intentions for this year is to be impeccable with my word. I borrowed the phrase from Don Miguel Ruiz because he uses it in a comprehensive way. To me, it means:
- Telling the truth to myself and others
- Avoiding negative thought patterns
- Keeping my word to others
- Keeping my word to myself (even harder)
- Using my words honorably, which means avoiding gossip, complaining, etc.
Well, I kind of slipped. There was a situation in my life that was upsetting me. When I spoke with the person I chose to confide in, even though I was only sharing the truth, it felt like complaining. Maybe, even whining.
The tone of my voice grated on my nerves, and probably on the nerves of my friend, too. The real problem is that the story kept running circles in my head creating an endless loop of negativity. My mood and attitude spiraled downward.
Fortunately, I was able to catch myself and shift my thinking. And now, I have renewed my commitment to this intention of impeccability with the words I think and speak.
It feels so good.
For those of you who are curious, this intention was inspired by the book, “The Four Agreements”, by Don Miguel Ruiz.
Being impeccable with our word is a lot easier said than done, isn’t it? Because we are humans, we will slip. What’s important is that you caught yourself and shifted.
The key to creating happiness is not trying to ignore the inevitable pain, sadness and slip-ups, but learning to face them, work through and make that shift that brings us back to feeling good about ourselves. If you hadn’t spoken about your pain and upset it wouldn’t have been out in the open where you could see it and deal with it. Be grateful that you could do that and more importantly that you have tools with which to restore the peace you love and deserve.
Well said, Flora. It is all about the awareness and choices.