In those crazy moments when we don’t know what to do or even how to begin to make a decision, intuition is the answer.
Fear doesn’t understand positive risk and thinks we are still two years old. It wants to keep us safe but is deeply misguided. We can’t trust our minds because they spin between different answers, telling us yes in one moment and no in the next.
Learning to discern which voice is your intuitive inner knowing is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and you can start right here:
The Voice of Fear:
- Keeps you small or prevents you from moving forward
- Has a sense of urgency, it wants you to decide or take action right away
- Tries to tell you what to do
- Creates overwhelm or confusion to keep you stuck
- Focuses on your perceived limitations or lack of possibilities
- Makes you feel bad about yourself
- Justifies its position by giving evidence
- Creates tightness or contraction in your body, often in your solar plexus or stomach
The Voice of Intuition:
- Guides you toward moving forward
- May feel like falling into the truth or surrender
- Sounds and feels soft, solid, and strong
- Can create a deep sense of just knowing
- Always wants what is best for you
- Never makes you feel bad about yourself
- Is opening, accepting, and discerning
- Usually generates a peaceful feeling once you accept it
- Can often be felt in your body as opening or relaxing
So, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and listen to the quality of the words in your head and the feelings in your body. The answer is within.
Linda,
Because there can be quite a lot of chatter in our heads, it is so important for us to learn to tell the difference between fear and intuition.
My voice of fear pushes hard to make me feel bad about myself and insists that I take action right away. Thankfully that voice is consistent and predictable, making it easier to recognize.
Thanks for these guidelines for identifying these very different voices since they are with us all of our lives.
My voice of intuition, like you say, is softer, but thankfully calmer and stronger.
Thanks for sharing what fear and intuition feel like for you. The next step is to really pay attention to the voice we can trust even if we don’t like what it says. Everything will be okay when we do.
Hi Linda, this is an excellent distinction. All too often I think I make decisions out of fear. You’ve given me some easy things to consider the next time I’m in a fear vs. intuition situation. Thanks!
I am glad this will be useful for you. I know that I use it all the time. In those moments of indecision and feeling stuck it helps to have something to remind us what is real.
I love this! So relevant…especially for entrepreneurs and small business owners. Great read!
Thank you, Bethany.
I am going to keep these handy. Lot’s of decisions need to be made in my life and perhaps I will listen to the right “little voice”.
Light to your journey, Trenna. When my clients face a lot of decisions at once they often feel overwhelmed and I get to remind them that it is actually a very rich time in their lives full of options and new beginnings. You might also enjoy: https://lifecoachlinda.com/need-clarity-quick-try-these-magic-questions/ or https://lifecoachlinda.com/where-to-begin-when-you-feel-challenged-in-multiple-areas-of-your-life/ And,if you are considering hiring a coach to support you, I would love to talk to you.
Excellent distinctions Linda! I used to find myself struggling with this quite a lot- especially when I had to make a big decision that felt scary. Sometimes fear does an excellent job of passing itself off as the reasonable, grounded voice of intuition but ultimately, you can always tell. This is a wonderful list to refer to 🙂
Maybe my fear isn’t as smart as yours. I can usually tell the difference, but in many cases the voice of fear covers up the voice of intuition.
Lovely way of explaining it, Linda: “a deep sense of just knowing.” Great post!
Monica: That is how it feels for me. Is it the same for you?