My clients will tell you that I like lists. I use them for organization and to bring forward information in a simple and clear manner. My clients don’t do them all the time, but when they do it is usually to support them in an area they are working on. There are however, some lists that I believe everyone should have:
- Your top 5 core values
- Lifetime successes and winning moments
- Positive qualities and personal skills you possess
- What you are grateful for
- Intentions, goals, and next steps
- Emergency resources and contact information
- Location of your passwords, will, accounts, and other important papers
- Things you love about your spouse or people that upset you (to read when you need to remember)
Your Turn: What lists do you think we all should have?
Email me if you would like a free exercise on how to identify your core values: firstname.lastname@example.org
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A Sense of Order Soothes the Soul
Whether you are in a relationship or not, you deserve some special time for loving self-care. When you take the time to nurture yourself, you will be more loving with those around you. It all begins with you. And, if you are like most of us, you have been neglecting yourself way too long.
Take some time this Valentine’s Day month for you. Only you. Do something that feeds your soul, lifts you up, or gives you a sense of peace. Remember that you are the most important person in your life, and you deserve to be nurtured and loved.
How? I asked my some of my clients and friends about their favorite self-nurturing activities and this is what they came up with:
- Buy yourself flowers
- Play with art or crafts
- Have a technology free day
- Soak in a bubble bath surrounded by candlelight
- Get a massage, facial, or mani/pedi
- Spend the day in your most comfortable pajamas
- Journal about the blessings in your life
- Treat yourself to your favorite chocolate
- Read a good book or watch a funny movie (or 2, or 3, or all day long)
- Go for a walk in nature
- Make yourself your favorite comfort food or bring home a great take out meal
- Visit a museum, art gallery, or zoo
- Lay on your back and watch clouds or stargaze
- Hire a photographer to do a professional portrait celebrating you
- Set a formal dinner table for yourself, including candlelight and flowers
- Color in a coloring book
- Enjoy a sunrise or sunset
- Do yoga
- Snuggle with a pet
- Sit quietly and listen to music you love
- Go out into the garden and get your hands dirty
- Float in a pool
- Write a loving letter to yourself
- Spend time sitting on the beach
- Go for coffee and a treat at your favorite café
- Take a class or go to an event that will inspire you
Whatever you choose to do, remember that you are your own Best Valentine and treat yourself accordingly.
Do you have any self-nurturing practices not listed here? I would love to hear about them. You can share by leaving a comment below.
Over the years, I have participated in many success oriented programs. One of my favorite things about these adventures was being assigned an accountability buddy. I found myself more engaged and committed to the process because of these partnerships and many of the people I was paired with are still my friends today.
Studies have repeatedly shown that you are more likely to achieve your goals when accountable to others. Knowing you are going to report your progress to someone else will motivate you to get things done. Another key benefit is that your wins will be recognized and acknowledged by the other person. This reinforces how good it feels to take positive action and keeps you moving forward.
Some people choose to create accountability by making an announcement of their goals or intentions. Posting your weight loss goals on Facebook or making a commitment before a group like AA are great examples of how this works.
Last week, I posted my intentions for how I want to be and what I am going to focus on this year. When the emails started pouring in, I became nervous. Did I really say that out loud? To the whole world through my blog? And then, the feeling shifted to a sense of peace. I now have all of you watching me and providing support and accountability for my heartfelt dream. How cool is that?
Whether your goals are large or small, having someone hold you to your commitments and dreams will increase the possibility of your success. I encourage you to find a friend, group, or coach you can trust to support you with accountability. When you make that commitment, the magic can begin.
You will not only create forward momentum and success, but you will also be increasing your levels of self-trust, self-confidence, and self-esteem.
What could be better than that?