Years ago I went through a time period when I was feeling sad and I wasn’t sure where it was coming from. It had happened gradually without my realizing what was going on. My days felt hard and my heart was heavy.
And then, one evening I was sitting on my couch watching TV and began to cry. I realized this was becoming a pattern and that is when it hit me. I cried when I watched the animal rescue show every evening that featured starving, abused animals in desperate situations.
My choice of “entertainment” was impacting how I felt in a big way.
There are many ways that our small choices can influence our moods, feelings, and level of hope about the world. In many cases the descent into negativity happens so gradually we are not even aware of it.
Taking the following steps will help you reset your life and start to feel positive again:
I’ve been to a lot of seminars over the years. Some were great, some were okay, and some of them made me feel uncomfortable. The ones I didn’t like usually involved pressure to buy, sell, or do something in order to be accepted.
It’s interesting to watch these charismatic seminar leaders in action. They make a lot of money doing this. They build momentum and get people fired up. They create a sense of urgency, use peer pressure, and sometimes shaming language:
- If you don’t buy this you don’t have what it takes.
- You can’t succeed without us. We know better than you.
- It would be really stupid to let this opportunity slip away.
- You won’t belong if you don’t do this.
The people in our lives may use similar methods to control us. They can use our fears and feelings of unworthiness to their advantage. And sometimes, we are so caught up in it that we don’t even realize what is happening. Continue reading
There are times in our lives when we all have continued doing things that no longer served us. Sometimes we just wonder about it. Is what I am doing working for me? Should I make a change? Sometimes we feel stuck. Why does nothing happen when I try so hard?
The following process is a quick and easy way to evaluate how effective your strategies are and decide how you want to move forward. Simply ask yourself these 6 questions: Continue reading
Recently, I presented a program about strategies for dealing with stress to employees at a local insurance office. One of the things that became clear is that most people think of stress as something big, powerful, and overwhelming, that controls them.
Not true. Continue reading
I have to admit that even after living in California my entire life this last earthquake scared me. It was 5.1 and the epicenter was near my home. This is the first time I have had to clean up broken glass and things that fell off shelves and I am very grateful that it wasn’t worse.
But, it got me thinking. We all experience quakes in our lives – being laid off, a shaken marriage, death or illness, and even those smaller aftershocks like an argument or project gone wrong. Continue reading
The period of completion, rather than being just an act of finality, is also one of transition. When we seek closure, what we really want is an understanding of what has happened and an opportunity to integrate the lessons we have learned. Continue reading
The human mind can be a dangerous thing. It can run away with our time, energy, and ability to be fully present in our world. Worry is one of its favorite tools to keep us busy and stuck.
What we really need is a little perspective! Continue reading
Anything worth doing deserves a solid foundation that will increase its chances of success. Sometimes, how you begin something is the most important thing. Here are two steps that will get you off to a great start: Continue reading
It has been clear to me for a long time that the words we use impact our feelings and actions. I write about it, coach it, and practice reframing language in my own life. But, becoming a Certified Hypnotherapist brought my understanding to a whole new level. Continue reading
I recently had a situation where I felt misunderstood. When I carefully reviewed what was said everything seemed to be clear, but it was obvious the other person was angry with me. Continue reading