We all have stories about our histories and many of them are about childhood experiences where our needs were not met. Some of us continue to feel the pain and anger of those early times. The beliefs we formed about ourselves and the world also continue to shape our lives.
Holding onto our childhood stories can keep us stuck in the past and blocked from living the life of our dreams. We can make ourselves sick by keeping the emotions in our bodies. We live as victims and are controlled by fear. This is what feeds our deepest feelings of being unworthy and unlovable. Continue reading
Years ago I went through a time period when I was feeling sad and I wasn’t sure where it was coming from. It had happened gradually without my realizing what was going on. My days felt hard and my heart was heavy.
And then, one evening I was sitting on my couch watching TV and began to cry. I realized this was becoming a pattern and that is when it hit me. I cried when I watched the animal rescue show every evening that featured starving, abused animals in desperate situations.
My choice of “entertainment” was impacting how I felt in a big way.
There are many ways that our small choices can influence our moods, feelings, and level of hope about the world. In many cases the descent into negativity happens so gradually we are not even aware of it.
Taking the following steps will help you reset your life and start to feel positive again:
For some reason, this week I feel called to repost this story from October 2011. My sweet cat Smoky has since passed on, but I will never forget our experience with the love balloon.
For my recent graduation from the Spiritual Psychology program at the University of Santa Monica, my dear friends Patricia and Kaleo gave me two balloons. One of them said, “congratulations”, and the other had hearts on it. I took the balloons home, where they floated up to the ceiling.
The balloons stayed by the living room window for several days and then I noticed the one with hearts was missing. While the congratulations balloon has never moved, the heart balloon began to explore my two story home.
One morning, I woke up feeling compelled to write a loving email letter to someone in my family who was facing a challenge. After finishing it, I sat in my desk chair enjoying the feeling of love I had for that person. When I looked over my shoulder, I discovered the heart balloon had come up behind me, as if to inspire or share in the love.
I renamed it the Love Balloon and over the next few days watched it travel from room to room as if spreading love throughout my home. One afternoon it centered itself in my bedroom window and seemed to be beaming love out to the world.
The Love Balloon is coming to the end of its life now and has made a new connection. It chose to spend its last hours above my cat, Smoky’s food bowl and they seem to have formed quite a bond.
I’ve really enjoyed my time with the Love Balloon. Think what you want. Believe what you want. But, for me, it’s been a beautiful reminder of the importance of sharing love with the world.
There are times in our lives when we all have continued doing things that no longer served us. Sometimes we just wonder about it. Is what I am doing working for me? Should I make a change? Sometimes we feel stuck. Why does nothing happen when I try so hard?
The following process is a quick and easy way to evaluate how effective your strategies are and decide how you want to move forward. Simply ask yourself these 6 questions: Continue reading
Recently, I presented a program about strategies for dealing with stress to employees at a local insurance office. One of the things that became clear is that most people think of stress as something big, powerful, and overwhelming, that controls them.
Not true. Continue reading
The concept of forgiveness is very noble and we are told it is the right thing to do, but sometimes it is not so easy.
Even when we know that forgivness is not saying the other person was right we may still crave completion, an apology, a way to prevent it from happening to someone else, retribution, or even just understanding what happened. Continue reading
Whether it be out of a sense of competition or trying to fit in, comparing keeps you in a game that you just can’t win. There will always be someone you can perceive as higher or better or lower than you. And, your data will be corrupt as you compare your raw, judged self to the images other people put forward of who they want you to believe they are. Continue reading
Pull out your journal or pen and paper and get ready to shift your fear… Continue reading
I have to admit that even after living in California my entire life this last earthquake scared me. It was 5.1 and the epicenter was near my home. This is the first time I have had to clean up broken glass and things that fell off shelves and I am very grateful that it wasn’t worse.
But, it got me thinking. We all experience quakes in our lives – being laid off, a shaken marriage, death or illness, and even those smaller aftershocks like an argument or project gone wrong. Continue reading
The period of completion, rather than being just an act of finality, is also one of transition. When we seek closure, what we really want is an understanding of what has happened and an opportunity to integrate the lessons we have learned. Continue reading
When my mom passed 23 years ago I loved her deeply, but also felt disconnected from her. I would have told you it was because of family issues, but the truth was that I was really just stuck in stories and marinating in emotional pain. Continue reading
Anything worth doing deserves a solid foundation that will increase its chances of success. Sometimes, how you begin something is the most important thing. Here are two steps that will get you off to a great start: Continue reading
I recently had a situation where I felt misunderstood. When I carefully reviewed what was said everything seemed to be clear, but it was obvious the other person was angry with me. Continue reading
I have ants on the brain. Probably because I have trails of little black ants in my house. They come in when the temperature outside goes over 90 degrees. Can’t really blame them. Continue reading