An early mentor of mine, Kendrick Mercer, used to say that fantasizing was a good thing. His perspective was that it was rehearsing for reality.
I used to love to hear him tell the story of how he created fantasies of being a brave knight and a Native American warrior in order to survive a childhood with no love and little care. He lived these stories fully and began to take on the qualities of each persona. Years later, it was clear that the knight and warrior spirits still lived within him. Continue reading
There are times in our lives when we all have continued doing things that no longer served us. Sometimes we just wonder about it. Is what I am doing working for me? Should I make a change? Sometimes we feel stuck. Why does nothing happen when I try so hard?
The following process is a quick and easy way to evaluate how effective your strategies are and decide how you want to move forward. Simply ask yourself these 6 questions: Continue reading
These strategies have worked for my clients over and over again. They can work for you, too. Continue reading
We are happiest when our lives are in alignment with our core values. Living in a way that reflects what is most meaningful to us, allows us to feel more peaceful, grounded, and fullfilled. Anything that conflicts with our values will create more stress and dissonance in our lives. Continue reading
Simple living gets a bad rap. It can bring up images of living in a cabin in the woods with one plate, one fork, and having to raise your own food. Or, a house that is cold, colorless, empty, and devoid of personality. And, what about those old, worn, and frumpy thrift store clothes you will have to wear?
The truth is living a simple life is not about that at all. Continue reading
Recently, I presented a program about strategies for dealing with stress to employees at a local insurance office. One of the things that became clear is that most people think of stress as something big, powerful, and overwhelming, that controls them.
Not true. Continue reading
Every day is a gift. A blank slate to write on. The choices you make in the first moments after awakening can impact your energy, effectiveness, and mood for the entire day. I am a big fan of morning practices and encourage you to create one of your own. Here are some fun ideas: Continue reading
The concept of forgiveness is very noble and we are told it is the right thing to do, but sometimes it is not so easy.
Even when we know that forgivness is not saying the other person was right we may still crave completion, an apology, a way to prevent it from happening to someone else, retribution, or even just understanding what happened. Continue reading
I may be a love and peace kind of girl, but I do believe in consequences for actions that are harmful to others. It used to bother me that I put a lot of energy into judging the people who hurt me or committed crimes against others, and then, I had a thought …… Continue reading
Whatever happened to love, honor and respect as ways of being in our world? Have you noticed that most of our entertainment is based on murder and violence? Books, movies, TV shows, and even the video games our children grow up with. And then, we act surprised when something bad happens.
It’s time to shift the tide. Continue reading
I recently listened to an interview with Dan Millman who wrote the book, “A Peaceful Warrior”. He describes a Peaceful Warrior as someone who has a peaceful heart with a warrior spirit. I like the sound of that and started thinking about what my life would be like if I showed up as a Peaceful Warrior. Continue reading
I recently came across this wonderful quote by Wayne Muller:
“Your challenge is not to keep trying to repair what was damaged, your practice instead is to re-awaken what is already wise, strong, and whole within you, to cultivate those qualities of heart and spirit that are available to you in this very moment.” Continue reading
I don’t think anyone gets out of this life without times when they feel low on energy, high on stress, or just not ready to face the world. The good news is that you don’t have to let it control or disempower you. At least, not before trying these: Continue reading
Whether it be out of a sense of competition or trying to fit in, comparing keeps you in a game that you just can’t win. There will always be someone you can perceive as higher or better or lower than you. And, your data will be corrupt as you compare your raw, judged self to the images other people put forward of who they want you to believe they are. Continue reading
Pull out your journal or pen and paper and get ready to shift your fear… Continue reading
I have to admit that even after living in California my entire life this last earthquake scared me. It was 5.1 and the epicenter was near my home. This is the first time I have had to clean up broken glass and things that fell off shelves and I am very grateful that it wasn’t worse.
But, it got me thinking. We all experience quakes in our lives – being laid off, a shaken marriage, death or illness, and even those smaller aftershocks like an argument or project gone wrong. Continue reading
The period of completion, rather than being just an act of finality, is also one of transition. When we seek closure, what we really want is an understanding of what has happened and an opportunity to integrate the lessons we have learned. Continue reading
When my mom passed 21 years ago I loved her deeply, but also felt disconnected from her. I would have told you it was because of family issues, but the truth was that I was really just stuck in stories and marinating in emotional pain. Continue reading
The human mind can be a dangerous thing. It can run away with our time, energy, and ability to be fully present in our world. Worry is one of its favorite tools to keep us busy and stuck.
What we really need is a little perspective! Continue reading
I haven’t met anyone who doesn’t have some regrets. Many of us spend a lot of time dwelling on them, which is unhealthy and a waste of our present moments. The past is in the past. But, if you find yourself getting stuck in those regrets and the guilt that comes with them, there is a way to let them go. Continue reading