My client was in a dilemma. She had been invited to join friends on a weekend getaway that sounded exciting, but there was one person going that always seemed to cause some kind of drama.
She kept saying she would like to go, but…
In coaching we call that competing intentions – when you want two opposing things. A lot of times they hide and can be sneaky, but this time they were out in the open and easy to see.
I asked her a couple questions that gave her clarity. She acted like I was brilliant. But, I wasn’t. They are simple questions that I use myself.
And, you can use them too.
The next time you need quick clarity, try asking yourself:
• What do I really want?
• What would I tell a friend or loved one in the same situation?
The answers may surprise you.