When I first moved into my house I felt sure one of the first things I would do would be remove the landscaping rocks that filled the planting areas. I envisioned soft, rich earth I could dig my hands into and a yard filled with home grown vegetables and beautiful plants and flowers.
When spring came that first year, I was fired up and ready to get rid of the rocks. I started digging, but soon discovered they were everywhere and had infiltrated deep into the soil. I gave up after digging down a couple feet and finding no end to them. The next year, with a renewed sense of motivation, I tried again. This time, I dug as deep as 3 feet in one area only to find the soil was still full of rocks.
I started to hate those rocks and may have even said a few four letter words, which is very unusual for me.
The third year, I decided to stop resisting and simply accept them. I even bought more rocks to replenish areas where they had grown thin on top. Potted plants and succulents became my new garden style.
And then, something strange happened.
While out on my morning walks, I started to be drawn to rocks along the path. I was intrigued by their shapes and felt compelled to take some of them home. I didn’t understand what was going on, but trusted my instincts.
One day, I sat down with the pile of rocks I had gathered and started balancing them on each other. I became mesmerized by their shapes and how they fit together in magical ways. The results were both interesting and beautiful. I had come full circle. Instead of resisting rocks, I now loved them.
Because of this experience, when I find myself resisting something, I remember the potential for beauty and transformation that can come when I let the resistance go.
And, because it can happen for me, I know it can happen for you, too. Are you willing to let go of resistance and find out what magic is waiting on the other side?
This was first posted on my old blog in 2014 as part of a blog challenge about teachable moments.
Photo: rock sculptures in my yard