20 Ways to Stay Centered During the Holidays

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  1. Create holiday intentions and review them regularly
  2. Focus on the meaning of the holiday
  3. Pray or meditate daily
  4. Forget about people pleasing
  5. Enjoy uplifting holiday music
  6. Spend time being fully present with the ones you love
  7. Do something to nurture yourself each day
  8. Spend time in nature
  9. Read something that inspires you
  10. Be gentle with yourself and the people around you
  11. Focus on how you want to be, not what you want to do
  12. Eliminate guilt by re-evaluating expectations
  13. Dance, sing, and play through the holidays
  14. Give from your heart
  15. Find a way to saturate yourself in gratitude
  16. Stay centered in the present moment
  17. Keep plenty of breathing space in your schedule
  18. Give your body the rest, movement, and nutrition it needs
  19. Establish firm, but loving boundaries with people who challenge you
  20. Stay organized and on top of things by using lists, apps, or whatever works for you

What will you do to stay relaxed this holiday season?

How to Clear Out Your Wardrobe When You Don’t Want to Let Anything Go

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With the change of seasons (not that it is very noticeable here in CA), I decided to pull out my winter clothes and see what I could piece together for my cool weather wardrobe.

I have to admit that while I am not a big shopper, I do like getting a good deal.  This has resulted in my having a hodgepodge of clothes, many of which do not go together.  It is challenging for me to clear some of them out because they are nice and might fit with something new I pick up in the future.  So, even though I don’t have a ton of clothes there is a sense of chaos.

What I want is a closet with nice, well made clothes that go together.  I want to open it and see a few complete outfits as my choices for each day.

And then, all I have to do each morning is ask them, “Who wants to come out and play?

This weekend I tried to tackle the project of clearing my closet.  I must not have been in the right mood for it because I kept putting back things that had been placed in the donate pile.  Instead of pushing myself, I simply accepted where I was at and chose an easier process that might work for you as well.

  • I discarded anything stained or damaged.  My two cats have a habit of putting holes in my clothes when they do that pawing thing before laying in my lap and I’m not really a fan of the shredded bag lady look.
  • I stashed summer clothing and things I was pretty sure I wouldn’t be wearing for a while in the back of the closet where they would be out of my line of vision.
  • I put together a few outfits for casual, business, and exercise/lounging with what remained and gave them center stage with lots of empty space around them.
  • I then turned all of the hangers for this season’s clothing backwards. When things are worn and laundered they will be hung the normal direction.  In a couple weeks it will be easy to see what I truly enjoy wearing.

My closet looks much better and the chaotic feeling is gone.  My choices are more clear each day and I am only wearing things I feel good in.  It feels very peaceful to have a simple wardrobe, even when I haven’t cleared it all out.

My intention is to return to this project for phase 2 in a couple weeks and move out all those items that I am not really wearing.  The experience of enjoying a simple organized wardrobe will make those choices much easier.

How Do You Compare?

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Whether it be out of a sense of competition or trying to fit in, comparing keeps you in a game that you just can’t win.  There will always be someone you can perceive as higher or better or lower than you.   And, your data will be corrupt as you compare your raw, judged self to the images other people put forward of who they want you to believe they are. Continue reading