We all have stories about our histories and many of them are about childhood experiences where our needs were not met. Some of us continue to feel the pain and anger of those early times. The beliefs we formed about ourselves and the world also continue to shape our lives.
Holding onto our childhood stories can keep us stuck in the past and blocked from living the life of our dreams. We can make ourselves sick by keeping the emotions in our bodies. We live as victims and are controlled by fear. This is what feeds our deepest feelings of being unworthy and unlovable.
It is only by releasing these feelings and letting go of the past that you will be free. Free to grow. Free to feel good enough. Free to create the life and love you want. Your past is in the past. It’s an old story. Honor it, but don’t get lost in it. It’s time to write a new story for the rest of your life.
A 4 Step Process for Healing a Past Issue
- Identify a situation and what age you were at the time
- Take out paper and pen and ask your younger self what they want you to know – write what they are saying in the first person (starting with the word “I”) and encourage them to express their emotions fully and freely.
- When they are through, close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Breathe out the negative emotions and breathe in love. If there is a lot built up, take a very deep breath and release the yucky stuff when you exhale. Repeat if needed. Sit with the feeling of letting go and bringing in love for a few moments.
- Comfort your younger self. You can do this by telling them you love them and will keep them safe or simply giving yourself a big hug. Do what feels right for you.