These strategies have worked for my clients over and over again. They can work for you, too.
Discover the Truth – your perspectives, reactions, and beliefs can cloud your ability to see the truth. Before moving forward it is important to know what is real right now. Challenge your thoughts by asking yourself whether you can know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they are true. If you need more information, do the forensics and get the facts. And then, ask yourself what you know for sure. I highly recommend writing this in your journal.
Move into Acceptance – acceptance of the truth brings peace. This can be a tough one if you don’t want to face something or feel like accepting means you are making what someone did okay. But, the truth is the truth. The facts are the facts. When you accept you no longer spend unnecessary energy resisting what is really happening or who a person really is. Dropping resistance relieves physical, mental, and emotional, stress. There is a sense of peace that comes with letting go of the fight to make things what they are not. And, it is from this place that clarity and direction will come forward.
Make a Choice – When you are no longer in a reactive state of mind, list all of the options available to you as your next step. Weed them out one at a time until you come to one that feels right for you. Use both your brain and inner guidance system to help you decide.